I am not going to apologize for what I said, Sam. I know about your mom, everyone does, as long as we are all here, we might have heard about it somehow. Maybe we saw your update or someone we know reblogged and we saw it. Again, accept my condolences.

But you have to know that if you are trying to bring us all together and you are beginning to worry that we need to be rewarded for always showing up for you and boosting your idea, then, you have to change a lot of things. You have to make sacrifices

We didn't complain about the rewards, you did. We just love coming around and sharing our thoughts on the questions you come up with every weekend. But if you suddenly feel the need to give us support for always being here and making this work, please tell me why you shouldn't hold up on some of your expenses or look for a balance so you can build that stake

I am not trying to compare you right now, but, experience the say is the best teacher, so pay attention to everyone who has started something that brings people together and tell me if you are not seeing that they are making those sacrifices.

I understand the neediness to spend, we are Nigerians remember, and oftentimes, we feel we should show the next person we have this money, instead of using the money to invest in our future. So, forgive me if I think you are using your mum's death as an excuse to churn out a great deal of money instead of building for your future. She's dead and she's gone, you are still here, and the fact that you are still showing up and trying to foster relationships among us requires that you look at this through a different spectrum.

You know you might be thinking you'll be able to keep coming and using the pity mindset to drain your account but it will not do you any good in the long.

Leave sentiment aside, find a balance, a solution, anything, and build.