Greetings dear mothers and fathers, today I want to touch on a topic that has caused deep reflection in me and that has been important in my decision on how to raise my son, this is when children help with housework, Although that is what should be taught, it has never seemed right to me to force children, on the contrary, I feel that first of all you should have good communication with the children, in my house Rafael loves to help me but I do not punish him if he does not want to do it, I always tell him with the greatest sincerity if it is something that is his responsibility, such as picking up his toys, putting away his clothes, he knows that he must do it because they are his things and therefore he is the one affected, since he was very young I have taught him that he should be responsible.

Sin embargo, cuando mi hijo me quería ayudar en otra labores yo tuve algunas diferencias con mi mamá, porque ella tiene un modo de criar diferente a mi, recuerdo muy bien que ella no le gustaba que yo le ayudara a hacer muchas cosas, ella siempre decía que yo tardaba mucho, es decir, mi mamá @yole sabe que su impaciencia le hizo una mala jugada en la forma de criarme, ella decía por ejemplo que si yo la ayudaba a hacer el almuerzo yo debía empezar en la mañana, por lo que ella siempre hacia todo lo de la cocina sola porque le gustaba hacer las cosas muy rápido, eso no quiere decir que yo no ayudara en otra cosas como limpiar la casa o lavar mi ropa, simplemente habían actividades en que ella creía que yo entorpecía el proceso por mi lentitud , esos recuerdos los tengo aun presentes por lo que cuando mi hijo quiere ayudar en algo y mi mamá se niega a que él lo haga yo hablo con ella y le digo que deje que él ayude, así aprenderá, además que él lo hace con mucha motivación.

However, when my son wanted to help me with other tasks, I had some differences with my mother, because she has a different way of raising children than me, I remember very well that she did not like that I helped her do many things, she always She said that I took a long time, that is, my mom @yole knows that her impatience made her a bad move in the way of raising me, she said for example that if I helped her make lunch I had to start in the morning, so that she always did everything in the kitchen by herself because she liked to do things very quickly, that does not mean that I did not help with other things like cleaning the house or doing my laundry, there were simply activities in which she believed that I hindered her process because of my slowness, those memories are still present so when my son wants to help with something and my mother refuses to let him do it, I talk to her and tell her to let him help, that way he will learn, besides that he He does it with great motivation.

Although sometimes I also want to do things quickly, if my son wants to help I let him help me, not because I cannot do things myself and want to take advantage of my son's good will, on the contrary, I try to moderate my hurry up and let her help me, receiving help is really something I'm not used to in many aspects of my life, but I think part of my job as a mother is to break those patterns that don't do me good and if it's to forge the courage of solidarity in my son I am willing to do it.

An example that my son gave me this week, it happened because in my house we are doing a restoration of the front of the house, we hired a mason for this, but my mom and I took care of buying the materials, we went to the hardware store and they took us the materials in a truck, the gentlemen in charge of that brought the bags of cement and the blocks into the house, but the sand was thrown on the sidewalk of the street, so my mother and I had to put all that sand inside the house, my mother began to do it while I was still busy in the living room, but my son told her that he wanted to help and she said no, that it was a very heavy job, that there was only one shovel and that there was too much sun, that was not appropriate for a child.

I immediately intervened, I told my mother that if my son Rafael wanted to help, let him do it, that he knows very well that if he feels tired he can stop without any pressure, she accepted and my son began to help, he filled With the shovel the bucket of sand and my mother carried it inside the house, after a while they had already loaded half of the sand, the two of them alone.

Then some boys passed by the street, they were the children of some neighbors, they told my mother that if she wanted them to help her, the three boys carried the other half of the sand, I looked at my mother and told her that this it was because they had grown up with the value of solidarity, in the same way that I want Rafael to learn to help others out of will and selflessness, at the end of the afternoon my mother gave a small tip to the neighborhood boys, but We are both very proud of my son, who helped of his own free will and did a job that my mom didn't expect him to be able to do.

I know that in the past the method of raising all sons was very hard, they practically forced children to assume adult responsibilities without having enjoyed their childhood, but at the same time, I think it is good that children are allowed to help whenever they want and in this way they will learn the value of work and empathy. This week my son told me that he wanted to be a builder, this is something that seems very good to me, because children have the right to dream of being whoever they want, even if they change their mind many times because they are children, before he told me that he wanted to be a firefighter , only time will tell what he decides to be when he grows up for now I love that he has fun.