Today is 15 November 2023 and it is my grandparents' wedding anniversary. Every year my mum and aunts celebrate this day by calling or buying flowers to my grandmother. My grandfather passed away in 2007, but this day is still very important for us and especially for my grandmother. During their many years of marriage, they had good and bad days. They changed cities. They had 5 daughters and one of them was my mum. This marriage that started in 1964 ended in 2007, but it still continues in the eyes of my grandmother even though they cannot be side by side. They say until death do us part, but such relationships continue even after death. 43 years of life spent together is easy to say. As someone who is on the eve of marriage, I would also like to have such a long and healthy marriage. I hope we will be blessed.
Marriage is not an easy matter. Divorce rates in recent years have been increasing. Let alone marriages, many relationships wear out over time and end. I would like to share with you the tips for a healthy relationship by taking advantage of what I see around me and my own experiences.
Love in a healthy way. I think loving and being loved is one of the most beautiful things in this world. But loving does not mean having. Or we cannot force ourselves to love someone else, dose and mutual love are very important here.
Respect. No disrespectful words and behaviours should be made against each other under any circumstances. Insults and offensive words should be avoided in the presence of others.
Open communication. Partners should be completely open to each other. They should share everything without lies. All feelings, thoughts and wishes should be shared. The uncomfortable events experienced should be discussed and shared. These should not be assumed to be absent.
Listening. You should really listen to the other person. The person shares what they want over time and trying to realise them without forgetting them makes the other person happy. Remembering small details. Making small surprises always strengthens the relationship.
Perhaps there are other items that I have forgotten, but I think these are the most basic elements. You can remind me of the ones I have forgotten in the comments. Thank you for reading.
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Bugün 15 kasım 2023 ve bugün anneannemle dedemin evlilik yıl dönümü. Her sene annem ve teyzemler arayarak ya da çiçek alarak bu günü kutlarlar. Dedem 2007 yılında vefat etti ama hala bugün bizim için ve özellikle anneannem için hala çok önemli. Yıllarca süren evlilikleri boyunca iyi ve kötü günler yaşadılar. Şehir değiştirdiler. 5 kız çocukları oldu ve bunlardan biri benim annem oldu. 1964 senesinde başlayan bu evlilik 2007 yılında bitti ama anneannemin nezlinde hala devam ediyor yan yana olamasalar da. Ölüm bizi ayırana dek derler ama böyle ilişkiler ölümden sonra da devam eder. 43 sene beraber geçirilen bir ömür, dile kolay. Evlilik arifesinde biri olarak böyle uzun ve sağlıklı bir evlilik yaşamayı ben de çok istiyorum. İnşallah bize de nasip olur.
Evlilik yürütmek kolay bir mesele değil. Son yıllardaki boşanma oranları giderek artıyor. Bırakın evlilikleri bir çok ilişki zamanla yıpranarak sonlanıyor. Çevremde gördüklerimden ve kendi tecrübelerimden de yararlanarak sağlıklı bir ilişki için ipuçlarını sizlerle paylaşmak istiyorum.
Belki de unuttuğum başka maddeler de vardır ama en temel unsurların bunlar olduklarını düşünüyorum. Unuttuklarımı bana yorumda hatırlatabilirsiniz. Okuduğunuz için teşekkürler.
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