When it comes to kids I know that there is no such thing as too much love

Are you sure about that? I have seen parents spoiling their kids because they love them a bit too much.
And the kids lack discipline because of it. You know what's funny, A parent who loves their kid would give them an ass-whooping of a lifetime. 😂
I think there is a correct qty of love is need for a wife to loving otherwise she would be nosey, and needy. You need the correct qty of love for a husband to be loving otherwise he would be an obsessive one, A loving mother may appear as a control freak and a loving father may appear as manipulative guy.

I hope that makes sense.
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We can only wonder as nobody knows the answer.