Life is not a bed of rose & ups and down is a part of life. Humans face various kinds of difficulties in life. sometimes they face mental difficulties and sometimes they face financial difficulties. So sometimes people need the help of others. And one human help another one in such kind of situations.
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I am a human and also have a kind heart. So I also tried to help people as much as I can by giving them loans. It's my good luck that I am surrounded by good people and most of the time they returned me money before I expected. I think very few people are lucky like me. For that reason I never hesitate to give loans to others but would you believe that my experience of giving the first loan was bad?
It was the time when I was a student in XI class. At that time I had no earning source. One of my aunts gifted me 10$ and I was happy because of it. I went to my village and one of my friends called me and asked for 5$ and he said it would be very helpful to him If I could give him that money. He never asked for money in childhood and I had money at that time and I said I would help him and said to meet me in the afternoon time.
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I used to share everything with my parents and so I also shared it and took their permission to give money to my friend. My parents scolded me a little because of taking the instant decision without thinking but they allowed me to give money to my friend. My parents didn't want their son to break his promise but they said me not to take such kind of decision instantly without thinking. So I gave him money in the afternoon time. My friend was very happy and said that he would never forget about this help & promised to me return it to me 1 month later.
One month later I went to his house because he invited all his friends to his house for a family program. I thought he would return my money that time but he forgot about it. I didn't remind him also because I thought it would not be the right time to remind him and all of my friends presented there and it might create an uncomfortable situation for him. I thought he would return it later.
Another month finished but he didn't call me and I returned to town at that time. Some days later I needed little money. I could manage it in other ways but I thought what's wrong to ask my friend for my own money? He said to send it to me the next day through mobile transfer.
The next day he didn't do it and said he forgot about it. The next day, he called me and said that he send his brother to make the mobile transfer and I would receive the money within 5 minutes. 30 minutes crossed but I didn't receive my asset. After asking him he acted like he was shocked and said he would check the matter. After some time he again said to me that he would send me the money after that day. I was very disappointed because I understood that he didn't send his brother to make a mobile transfer and he played with my emotion. I only asked for my money for the last time after that day.
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Whenever I asked for money It gave me a feeling like I am begging for my own money from him. I felt hesitant and ashamed to ask for money again. I left the hope of the money. He used to earn money each month but he never returned my money. I met with him face-to-face but I didn't ask for money again. He never apologized to me for what he did but I never brought that money between friends. I was afraid that money might create an impact on our friendship and that was the reason I never asked for it. Besides, I never wanted to humiliate him also.
My mother still reminds me of that incident whenever I decide to loan money to my other friends. That friend played with my emotions and I will never forgive him for whatever he has done to me. Only a few friends of mine knew about it and I said them that one day he will suffer for whatever he has done to me. I believed that everything happens again and again in different ways and someday he would need my help again.
The next time, I won't provide him with financial support even if I will capable of it. I can't trust him in case of financial cases but he is still my friend and I think money can't be the reason to break my friendship. It's true that I won't forget what he has done to me but in the case of friendship, I isolated money from it. We remain the same as earlier but the only difference is I won't trust him in the case of money only. Friend means friend and money should not be allowed to make an impact on my friendship.
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