It's good to change the tradition

As humans, having the desire to enjoy the time how we want is ok and we try to do it as much as we can mostly in the time of holidays. It's because holidays allow us to give us some free time and make us free of some shackles by the name of responsibility. Instead of it some traditions in the holiday became an obstacle to enjoying moments in holiday. It is human behaviors that started from an earlier time rather than saying traditions but people started to acknowledge those as traditions.

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There are many traditions like that and most of those are already told by the other participants. So I decided to share something new that is still untold by others. But the post of bruno-kema touched my heart and it was the most unique one. I also recommend you to read it.

In my country, December is also known as the winter season and it's the time of winter vacation means it's the holiday. In the time of winter season, it's known as the wedding season. I don't know any kind of technical explanation behind it but it happens in every winter season and I have noticed it since my childhood time. My family receives many wedding invitations from many relatives and we try to attend most of them if we are capable of going there.

The first thing we consider before attending a wedding is what kind of gift/presentation we should give for the broom or for the bride. The most common gifts in my region are clothes, gold, money, water filters, dinner sets, glass sets, charging fans and so other things that are necessary for a new family. There are no official rules to going to a wedding with gifts but almost everyone attends a wedding with a gift at least.

Although it's not any official rules, people start to make bad comments in the behind saying "He came here to eat without any gift. He is a shameless person I have seen in my life". It's not the only comment. The comments can be various kinds of and I hope you can guess it. Because of that kind of thing a person feels hesitant to attend a wedding without any presentations.

Let me share a little story of a few years ago. it was the time one of my school friends was getting married and he invited almost all of his friends and obviously, I was ready to attend the wedding with gifts. But my another friend who was also invited but he was facing a financial crisis and he was unable to bear the cost of buying a gift. I insisted him to attend in wedding without any gifts but he was feeling hesitant to join and lastly, I told him to attend the wedding with another gift and I would carry the expenses for the gift. He was such kind of person who hardly took help from others and he also refused my offer and he didn't attend the wedding. Everyone was asking about him but I just needed to answer them he had some emergency otherwise he might join the wedding.

It was just a single incident but it's happening with many people, especially those people whose financial situation is not so stable, don't attend the wedding to save their dignity. In fact, some people are forced to buy the gift just because they need to attend even if their financial condition is not so good. I know buying a normal gift doesn't cost too much but the cost can be too much for other people. So the tradition of bringing gifts is not a good thing and I believe a couple doesn't start their life depending on the gifts from others. They are capable enough to run their family. They need blessings more than gifts.

I know it is a problem of the mentality of society people but if the tradition of bringing gifts to weddings stopped then, I believe it will be better for everyone and the wedding can be more enjoyable.