Bonding can't be be forced

We are humans and we cannot live alone. We bond with various kinds of people. Some bonds are not intentional and not blood-related, and some bond forms naturally because they are blood-related. I believe that every relation or bond is precious and should be cherished. But with time people change as well as their mindset and naturally that relationship between humans does not remain the same. Human minds are quite complex, and I think I can't blame anyone for the change. But the fact is that every time the change is not the positive change and naturally, sometimes it's better to break those bonds.

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At this present world, people are very selfish. Blood-related brothers and sisters can be cruel for the sake of an asset or property. They even dare to kill their blood-related brother for it. It can be said that people become very greedy and selfish. If we check the newspaper, we can find such stories many times and it's indeed pathetic. It's true that we are living in such a world, but I believe that almost everyone wants to maintain a good relationship with their brothers and sisters as well as with their relatives and having such an intention is very natural. They also expect that their future generation will also maintain a good relationship with them. Let me share real example of it.

My uncles and aunts as well as my father's brothers and sisters are on good terms with my father. I'm on very good terms with my uncles. They love me very much and I can feel it. Till now I haven't felt that they hate me or don't like me or something like that. It's true that I didn't receive their support too much, but I am pretty much sure none of them hate me at least. So naturally I would love to maintain a good relationship with them as long as they don't change their kind of motive. But when it comes to my father's sisters. I have a different opinion. My father helps three sisters and I can feel closeness with only one. I don't like the remaining two. Are you curious to know why?

I don't have any specific reason and if I want to give some simple reasons, there will be countless. In a simple world, I don't feel closeness to them. Maybe they didn't share their love with me or their simple but continuous actions made me distant with them. Instead of it my father wants me to have a good bond with them, but I actually don't care about it. It's because I think that they don't deserve it. I just feel about it in that way, and I think my father cannot do anything in that case because he cannot change my mindset towards them. And I think they are reasonable for it.

In case of relationships, my bonding is very good with my siblings also, and If I get married, I would love to see my child having good bonding with them and such kind of expectation is normal. I want such a thing because I think my siblings can also guide them in many cases. But I won't force them to maintain any relationship just because of me. If they can connect naturally, I will be happy, but I won't mind if they can't connect with each other, as everyone is not the same and the principles of life of each person can be different. I believe that no relation can be maintained for long term if it's forced.