Modern western society has unleashed a new standard of parenting where parents are encouraged to be buddies, mates, friends, and equal to their offspring. Fatherhood is something to abhor and has become a dirty word amongst many Parenting groups.
Freedom for children has been taken to its extreme. Bandied about is the zero discipline rule. The sway of non-disciplinary child rearing is getting uglier as each year roars past and parents are weakened and deliberately and systematically stripped of their role and silenced by their children.
The fake appearance of parenting has taken our society by storm and parents are beside themselves not knowing what has caused this phenomenon.
Children are bitterly ruling households and the terminology of NO is defined as a forbidden expression punishable by extreme tantrums and the possibility of parents being incriminated and reported to social services, who happily oblige to remove children from their parents. The bitter fighting continues with parents entangled between social services, foster carers, and their totally confused children who thought they acted righteously.
Combatting this unsustainable and ridiculous method of parenting is challenging but not impossible. Fathers need to take charge. Control is not what we want here but rather a balanced influence. Positive impact on your children's lives is paramount and the benchmark of fatherhood needs to be seriously challenged.
Positive criticism, uplifting parenting practices and establishing ground rules should see jubilant relationships. Fathers are not just mates! A father corrects his children because he loves them. A father guides his children because he loves them and wants the best for them. A father who loves his children will not always be liked or loved back but over time his efforts will hopefully show positive behaviours from his children.
Fatherhood is something that is learnt. A man cannot learn unless he has an example. A good, powerful and effective example passed on generation after generation. No child is born with an instructional booklet but we are all born with a conscience that tell us what's right and what's wrong. We can sear that conscience or utilise it to our advantage and raise the next generation of children to become well adjusted adults.
Fatherhood is only as good as the woman by his side; meaning... mothers, don't undermine dad's authority. Learn together, teach your children together, discipline as a couple and watch results roll in. Be of one mind... discuss concerns out of earshot so triangulation doesn't become an issue.
Unfortunately children are masters at triangulating parents and they succeed because parents let them succeed. Become a super dad by practising sound parenting techniques. Utilise your common sense and discover how much more in-depth your relationship with your children will become.
Fatherhood is something to abhor if not done properly but it's definitely something to treasure if done righteously and with dignity and respect. Enjoy being a buddy, a mate, a friend... but most of all enjoy being a responsible father because it's you who is raising our future generation. Make fatherhood count!
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