I think you also have to define what success means to you. Often we are afraid of someone else's version of success interfering with our path to our true "success" during the period in which we aren't totally clear how we personally define it. Now that I've largely achieved my personal vision of success, I look back and am so glad my attempts at the world's success were thwarted at so many turns. I was not meant for that.
The most crucial work is deciding who we choose to be, then making ourselves into that person. That's success, whatever that looks like.