He is correct about everything except the parts. If you grew up in a traumatic environment then it is likely that your personality split into parts and the different parts are trying to protect the main true self - in this case you do have to spend the time necessary to make friends with all the parts and find the inner Source - by which you can integrate into ONE singular single-minded rooted being - like a tree. It takes time. I recommend The Loving Parent Guidebook... it's available on Anna's Archive...if you can't just run out and buy it. I recommend you just read it through first with a friend - and don't do the exercises. That might be enough. Then on the 2nd time through - you can slowly do the exercises with your friend...