1. Seed Weight Load

Javanese have a philosophy in choosing a mate, which is based on the weight weight of the seeds. According to parenting experts and the initiator of the Indonesia Strong From Home Movement, Edy's father, the concept was full of wisdom and could still be applied up to now.

Seedlings are the way a person chooses a partner by looking at genetic factors or offspring, not just about inheriting physical character but also basic nature. Like for example the nature of quiet, talkative, dominant or passive are traits of the results of the legacy of the previous generation.

Meanwhile, weight is the quality of one's inner birth like the potential possessed. According to Edy's father, how to assess the weight of a partner is to pay attention when he speaks, whether he has a vision, purpose and life plan.

Whereas Bebet is the origin of the family. Some people say it includes social status, dignity and family wealth. But in this 238-page book, Edy's father also added that far more important than that is looking at the family's background: Are your prospective family included in the family well and how do the parenting patterns apply to your candidates?

2. Seriousness

If the behavior does not show seriousness, it means that he is definitely not a soulmate. There is no point in being defended. There are a number of things to measure the seriousness of a partner, including the right appointment, courage to meet parents, and make a clear plan.

3. Match

Match is the key to establishing a lasting and happy marriage relationship. Before you decide whether it's suitable or not, try checking deep into your heart if you really feel fit and accept bad habits or shortcomings and don't expect him to change later.

"Don't hurry up saying it's suitable just because his face is handsome or beautiful, even though you don't really know him yet. Remember, good looks and beauty will fade. The eternal is a match and kindness," Edy's father wrote in his book published in July 2017.

4. Pay attention to the codes

According to the man who is also a child education practitioner, to recognize soulmates there are signs or codes that you can 'read'. In addition to physical signs such as having to be white or have a sharp nose, the code to find your soul mate can also be a way of talking, eyes, or even a cool or humorous attitude and joking.

"My wife, for example, she was interested in me because she thought I was funny. Don't ignore personal tastes. Ask yourself what criteria do you want from your future husband / wife?" Added Edy Father.

5. Support your Life Plan

Your soulmate is only one and he is the one who will support your dreams. If someone who is close to you right now is opposed to your life plan or your life's aspirations, chances are he is not your soul mate.

"In choosing a soulmate, don't just be guided by love. Love is blind. Love usually comes when you often spend time with someone," wrote Edy's father.

6. Listen to the Word of Heart Not the Words of Others

When you are with your soul, your heart will be calm. You will feel fit and comfortable with him. According to Edy's father, don't ever force yourself to marry someone just because of forced or parental pressure and the environment.