Good morning dear parents in motherhood Community. Hope this my post meet you well. This season is full of activities, wedding and burial every weekend. It will be nice to share with you an urgly life experience i encountered on Tuesday 06/12/2022. In this story see why parents should tell there children whom they are and where they come from on time so as to save some embarrassment or some pain.
On Tuesday 06/12/2022, i and 2 of my friends went to visit another friend who lost her husband. It was difficult for us that day to locate her house because where she told us was not where she was. When we finally saw her, she was in deep pain. At first we thought it was because of the husband death. But her pain was too deep and i asked her, what else is the Challenge you are facing? Share with us, we can help.
She said it was long story. She said it was so shocking to know that her husband is not from the village where they built house and where they are living now. The late husband was 75 years and she is in her early 60. She said that 5 days after her husband death, their second Son paper to travel abroad came out and he needed their village King to sign it for him.
As he went to the King, He said to him that they are not from his village that He is not the right person to sign for him. He felt devastated and asked with tears, who am I, who is my father, where did i come from? At first He thought He was adopted so He cried all through.
Me. I asked her what is the outcome now.
She continued by saying that, she called her first Son who is a lecturer in Uniuyo to come and hear. As He came, they bomberd her with questions that she don't know the answer because she never knew that her husband is not from that village. Hmmmm.
Arrangements was made to meet the King with drinks to help them find their home. It was there they heard that the are from Ọkọbo and his late husband wish when he was alive is not to be buried in Ekpenukim where they are living so they have to go to his village to build a house where they will stay for his burial. Sad story😭. We sympathized with her and felt her pain too.
One of us asked the woman, you mean all this years of marriage, He has not told you where he came from. This is serious.
She said, even her mother inlaw did not tell her, it was the kingsmem, who told them that, the mother of her late husband came back with him when he was 3 months old from her husband place after the death of his own father. So he grew up here as one of them. Even his mother did not tell him where he came from. It was one day, when he wanted to know why the village do not allow him to do some of the things they do. They told him his story. So he on his own made some inquiries and found out the truth and told them that his body must return to his land at death.
We encouraged her and her 2 Sons we met and told them to learn from that mistake. Now that they have learn about their origin, their own wives and children should know it too. Truth must be told now not tomorrow.
Please parents, please, the truth is bitter but it is better to tell the truth than to cover it. No matter how many years you cover the truth, it will surely come out. It is like pregnancy, you can hid it for 3 months but at 6 months, you could not hid it again. If that child that is living with you now is adopted child, let him know it on time and why you adopted him. Let him know your love for him and assure him that you saved his life.
It will be bad if he hear it outside. If your wife died and left behind 6 months old child, and now your second wife is taking care of her, let her know on time. Some women will tell their children that their father is late when their father is alive because of Challenge they had with their husband. Think of tomorrow. That small boy will grow tomorrow. He will ask you again, where is his father? How will you cover the truth and continue lying? The truth must be told.
A lot of problem can be avoided now if only we tell the truth now not tomorrow. You can imagine the pain the family in this story is going through now. If the mother of their father had told him the truth or if their father had told them from the time he found out his origin, do you think they will prepare burial 2 places.
Not at all, parents please, please, please, tell your children all the truth they need to know about you now. I know it is difficult sometimes but you have to do it to avoid so many problem in the future.
