Noise, Mess & Marites

I believe everyone has annoyances. It can be anything and it varies from person to person. Some react better (they have higher tolerance), and others have very low it they snap the second they face things that irritate them. Mine is pretty normal, depending on my mood and the circumstances. There are three things, however, that annoy me to a great degree no matter the situation - noise, mess, and nosy people.

Noise

I love my peace and quiet. It irks me to get disturbed by any unnatural noise to an extent I can no longer bear. It drains me out. There was a time when even the slightest sound made me want to scream I had to visit the doctor thinking there was something wrong with me. It turned out that I was just fed up. There is so much going on around us so adding noise would make me lose my sanity.

That was one of the reasons we moved to a more secluded place, away from cars honking, dogs barking now and then, loud music, and motorbikes with loud pipes blasting along the road (some common disturbances at the other house).

A few years ago, the neighbor up the hill loved blasting his music as early as 5:30 in the morning and although they are several hundred yards away from our house, the sound echoes since we are on a mountainside. There was not a day I woke up feeling annoyed because of it. Thankfully, after doing so for a few weeks (and when I was just about to reach my boiling point and talk to his wife to request they tune down their speakers), he eventually stopped.

Noise (or the absence of it) is also one of the factors we consider in finding a place to eat (restaurants), when sleeping out (hotels), or when spending time outdoors.

Mess

I hate mess (in the real sense of the word), especially inside my home. It's one that I can't live with, even for a day. I get so restless. I like my kitchen sink clear, my dining table free from crumbs, my bedroom neat.😅 It is good that the hubby understands this and tries his best to meet me halfway.

Busybody

It is natural to be curious but it isn't nice when we go overboard and stick our noses into other people's affairs. I see it as a form of disrespect (not only to others but to oneself). It's disgusting even more when we talk too much about others after prying into their lives.

For me, it is best to distance myself from such a person, even if it means losing a friendship. I observed that people who do that usually do not accomplish anything and their mindset tends to be judgmental. Being nosy seems to make them feel productive when they are just wasting their time with idle chatter.

In the country, we call such persons "Marites," a slang term (name) pertaining to women who enjoy gossiping and talking about rumors. Well, men also engage in such an activity and it's utterly annoying too, lol!

I think there is an ounce of Marites in each of us, some are just naturally good and successful in subduing it and utilizing their time, energy, and attention into much better things. Congratulations if you're among them.