Yeah man, it's hard to explain to people that having a wife is not the same thing as having friends. As for finding a group, when I was in Northern California I joined a local fraternity that was centered around volunteer-ship, my goal was to make friends and do something good. It ended up being a job and I made no lasting friends. I was stationed in Asia for 7 years and became a Buddhist, I use to go to temples and try to meet up with other Buddhists, but it's not common to meet other white people that are real Buddhists. Every time I go to a Buddhist group I end up being some kind of oddity to all the people there and it's really weird. As sad as it sounds, I have considered going to join a Christian church and pretend I'm Christian just to make friends...