The Question was “How do I master the way you remain calm in any type of situation?”
My answer is as follows:
This mostly boils down to your ability to control your emotions.
This is easier said than done of course, as humans are emotionally volatile by nature. Usually, when we get emotional, our rational fly’s out the window and this is precisely what causes us to lose control.
In order to maintain calm in a situation, your rational mind must be able to maintain control over your emotional responses.
There are a few ways you can learn to do this, including:
Learning breath control — Breathing deeply helps your body determine that it isn’t in any immediate danger (this is what causes stress, anxiety, etc) and can be a great first step in mitigating your emotions as they rise up to overtake your rational mind.
Intentional Exposure to Stressful Situations — Make yourself uncomfortable on purpose by doing something you wouldn’t normally do. Maybe you have social anxiety, so try pushing yourself to talk to a stranger, that sort of thing. This is a form of exposure therapy and can allow you to feel what triggers an overly emotional response within you, allowing you to become more aware of it before it’s too late.
Finding an Outlet — Taking up practices like exercise and meditation are some of the best ways there are to gain better control of your mind and your emotions. Exercise is one of the absolute best things you can do for yourself both physically and mentally, while meditation gives you greater control over the thoughts that might lead you to an overly emotional response in the first place.
Staying calm is a skill that can be learned, but like any other skill, it takes practice.
Just keep in mind that we lose our calm when we, in some form of another, feel threatened.
Knowing this allows us to recognize the difference between a real threat and ones we construct in our heads (which is most of the time). Learning the difference is crucial to retaining control over your emotions and essential to staying calm in most situations.
I originally answered this question on quora. You can find me here.
