And Micheal, J., Fox said, “Family is not an important thing, it is everything.”
The family you are from gives the foundation for EVERYTHING that is to happen in your life. You might even hate them at some point but then, they come first in your thoughts but you are the one that usually just discards that thought. This is one reason why I find it funny when people go ahead to get married without one or both parents consenting to such union. Family is not just important, it is foundational, and that is not a mistake. But yes, coming from a family that makes you regret being born in the first place can be a frustrating process to deal with.
Family is what builds us up. When we talk about parents training up their children right, that’s part of what the family entails as well. As some say, “Charity begins at home.” Our parents are always or should always be there watching us as we take every step until they are certain we can run and make those right choices on our own. It is normal for us children to hate it when they act all controlling and protective but that’s how it should be. I mean, that’s how you know you are human too because as humans, we always seem right in our own eyes. But our family, they help build us and act as shield when necessary.
We are bound to make the worst and bad choices but then, having a family that cares and loves us will help us wright our wrongs, no matter how difficult it may seem. A family that loves us is one that is always ready to catch us when we are falling. One that looks out for any danger on our part and is ready to help clear it away for us. They are not scared to tell us the truth because they know we deserve the truth to become better and also to stay on the right path. They are always ready to welcome you in, anytime you realize that’s where you need to be.
But there is a twist, like someone once said, what you are not changing, you are allowing. That is to say, whether or not your family is one that is full of love and care or not, they shape you into who you are and you are becoming. A family that gives you the leverage to do whatever you want however you want it might seem like they love you so much but it is either of two things, they don’t know the right path to lead you on or they think that’s how to show you they love and care for you. But anyways, these things are what shapes us.
For me, my family is one that has taught me so many things that has shaped me into the person I am today. One family ritual that shaped me is always being welcoming. My dad is really hospitable and we grew up to learn how to welcome people into our home. Now that I’m older, I have learnt to be a little bit more conscious but as long as I feel you are not a troublesome person, I don’t mind welcoming you into my home. I have been warned several times to be weary of being too hospitable because people are becoming more wicked by the day, but I just trust God and do what feels right.
My family has also made it a ritual to love God and anything that concerns him. We struggle but we always encourage ourselves when needed, to do the right thing because we believe that as long as God is the foundation of any family, then they will be able to face whatever challenges that may arise and also be able to shape us right.
Thank you for reading through. 💜
