Embracing the troubles of Life can be really hard for us especially at that point when it's so on us. Life has been quite fair to me I'd say but then I've also had those times when I wish it would pass by quickly. Ever since I was a little girl, I already started learning how to live a difficult life because I learned that things won't always go the way we want it to.
Since my mum left us, I was so sad to the point I told myself that life is always going to be hard and that just made me expect the worst from life almost every time. All that I wanted to do was see more reasons to be grateful for what I have and also be grateful for what I don't have. It was hard but then that's what I want to learn because I know that whatever happens to me is something that would have happened to someone else.
So many tough times are running through my head right now but I think the worst one was after my mum left and my dad got into an accident while trying to go look for my mum. I was so sad when I saw my dad coming into the compound without his motorcycle which he used while going out. Despite how injured he was, I can still remember the smile on his face just to make us feel he was okay but tho I was little, I knew my dad was not fine because prior to when my mum left I had a dream she would leave and I saw that my dad got into an accident too.
I thought it was just a dream, I actually didn't understand the dream then but now I can't get it off my mind whenever I remember my mum left. Days after the incident, my dad's brother which was our uncle told my dad that he was going to let us stay with him until my dad was fine again. My dad actually had nothing then so he needed help. We followed our uncle to his place but then after staying for a week, the load became too heavy for my uncle to bear since he also has his own children.
My uncle told us he was going to take us to meet our grandma. Something inside of me told me he was going to take us there to stay but I had no choice. I told my uncle to take us to my dad but he insisted we should go to our grandma. Well, that was when life started to get tough for us. We spent approximately 3 years in the village with our grandma before my dad finally came for us.
Those years we spent in the village wasn't easy at all, I remember always praying that my dad comes as soon as possible. And even when I thought things were going to get better when my dad came for us, my Dad faced another difficult situation and we had to go stay with my mum's mother (my grandma). Living with my mom's mother was another tougher experience because at this point we were much older.
We could only survived by engaging in hardwork (farmwork). I was a tough girl so I was able to adapt almost immediately to whatever life threw at me but then it wasn't so easy for my siblings. Talking about a tough time in my life just made me realized how tough life was for my family and myself. But then I was able to come out stronger.
Today we are living a much comfortable life without fear of what's even coming next because we know that even at this point God has done more than enough for us. In all these years of living through these tough experiences, I've come to accept and believe that indeed there is God and he has been faithful not just to me but also to my family. At some point I thought it was always going to be tough but I was wrong.
The major hurdle I had to overcome was the part of living with different people in the space of few years. Since my dad had almost nothing, we had to keep moving to different places to stay with those who are willing to accommodate us and it wasn't so easy but we were able to adapt almost everytime. Today, so many people even want us to come visit them and that is to show how much we were able to adapt.
The major lesson I learned is how to be adaptive and tolerant because we don't know where we would be tomorrow. If we weren't so tolerant, we would have found it even more harder living with so many people. I also learned that patience is indeed a virtue. So many people that know us while we were growing won't believe how improved things are for us now. Those tough times were building us from something greater and now I'm so glad for how far I've come.
This is my response to the Hivelearners topic on "TOUGH ONE".
