You have really spoken we and I really love your posts, truly parent and relative need to help all this child to have a good behaviour but sometimes the fault is not from the parents or the relative but from the child.

whenever you talk to him or her he will refuse to hear what they are telling him and nowadays even though you are talking to some children they will be replying you negatively and if you beat them they will beat you back which is very wrong.

In the olden days when an elderly person or your parents are correcting you you did not have the right to say any word or to even look at them but not the child of nowadays they won't hear you whenever you say come back here they will not answer they will do whatever they want to do.

And concerning your brother issue since your parents have know that if they did not give him what he wants he will be disturbing them and can take that thing from where they keep it without permission.

Do it is good and is will help such a child not to steal from outside but nowadays children when you continue giving them money every time and the day you did not have they will not understand you all they want is that you must provide whatever the need for them.

So in this matter we just need to be wise and pray to God that God should help us to train our child very well and as you have said is not all the time that we can beat the children.

We need to use three things to discipline our children which are beating word and punishments, these three things must be used at same time.

Because if a child did a wrong thing and you beat him and you see that beating his not helping the matter then you proceed two punishment he will not beat such child but you use punishment to discipline him or her.

And when you see that punishment cannot help the matter the child is becoming too stubborn then you use word by telling him or her sweet word and the word that will touch is hearts or change him for good.

It's not that we will be using a word like causing the child abuse him no you just have to correct with love.