Myeah, ladies aren't too keen on the old direct approach (usually). I think we generally appreciate being eased into it. I'm not a fan of playing games either, but it's sometimes worth making the effort or playing a little as it helps you meet some interesting people, I think. I think (hope) there's a difference between playing games just for the sake of being "a player" and testing to see if you have things in common with a person. The latter is highly worthwhile, so my advice would be keep trying. It's worth it. :)