A long conversation. I love that.

we must be willing to submit ourselves to a process of falling in love with each new version of our partner and vice versa.

Yes. I think a lot of relationship misery comes from being unable to accept these changes or expecting your partner to stay the same (or finding perhaps you've both changed to a point where you're irreconcilable with the other).

They say hate isn't the opposite of love, indifference is, and that certainly seems right to me.

I agree. I guess at the end of the day, we all just really want someone who sees us and cares that we're there.