Life is somehow complicated, everybody is pushing hard, striving to become better, to show up at the end of the day that they have made it, no nobody wants to be seen less, everybody just wants to measure up and ofcourse this is the natural pursuit of life that we make commensurate progress in life, have our plans actualized.
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because of these, a lot of people rather fake things, go beyond their means to make money, just so they are appreciated and taken seriously,
people have dark sides, pains sleepless night, tears and agony yet when they come out dress very nice and good-looking no one can truly tell the secret battles they're fighting.
I have been there too, in my little ways I have seen how hard life can be, the reality of things are totally different from expectations and so in other not to be judged, mocked, laughed at, we hide behind the shadows and claim everything is fine.
it was a Nigerian singer and song writer Victor AD who sang that while your emoji is smiling, the real you is sad, we tend to hide behind the mask so people don't see the real us, we fake a lot of things so that we're not judged, especially in relationships, people carry scares that they don't want to talk about, not because they don't want to, but because the other won't understand.
as for me I don't mind sharing my personal struggles out there, not because I want sympathy, but because I know my story can be similar to someone else who is trying to come out of that shoe, but then there are part I won't share for personal reasons tho.
most times I see or hear people say I understand how you feel, that's not really true, those words are just spoken to sympathize with the other, and also you can confide something in a person and later hear it from another person's mouth.
people don't share their other side because of a truth their secret is not safe,