The general purpose of abuse is to erase someone autonomy, in order to make him take decisions that are more in the advantage of the abuser.
To recover from the abuse is to undo the process of having your autonomy erase.
The entire world is in a pretty sad place, where government and his institution abuses the general public on the regular basis, and this is seen by most people just regular necessary business. Sadly your external autonomy is hard to recover at the time, but nobody is stopping you to do so internally.
When wrong feedback is introduced like a lie, this creates confusion you see what is wrong in the world as right and what is right as wrong, which is going to lead you to take the wrong decisions over and over again because you have the faith that is the right thing to do. So you force yourself to do things you don't want because you think that it is dangerous to don't do them. We give up our autonomy because we are scared, particularly scared of things that are not real threats. You wore lied to believe that certain things are a lot more dangerous that they really are in order to control your behaviour.
Because of this you end up self sabotaging yourself and end up in a state of chronic emotional pain. This will lead on a longer term to be even more impulsive, which is going to create all kinds of self sabotaging behaviours like addiction without ever getting any sense of closure.
There is a constant competition inside your body, between your impulsive part of the brain, the emotional one and the rational one responsible with reasoning. Competition is just the natural process through which the most competent part of you becomes the most influential at the moment and when is no longer relevant or as effective as some of the other parts of you, the power is replaced by the part of you that better suits the function you are trying to accomplish at the time.
Whenever you are trying to erase the competition it is like an internal dictatorship, through resisting and attempting to control things over which you have no control you become less efficient and impractical one part of your mind becomes dominant and everything that is not served the best by that part that becomes dominant becomes compromised.
In order to get out of this vicious cycle you have to recover your autonomy, this means that you have to let the natural competition system to take place and let the winner lead you. There is always anxiety that motivates people to control themselves. After all it is not a guaranty that if you let yourself to have autonomy you will never hurt yourself or others.
Nature took care of this problem with a tool that we call free will, which is our ability to take better decisions when new information is presented to us. Your free will was used against of you when they lied to you, they used your free will in such a way to scare you to erase your autonomy.
The way to restore it is from inside out, as people without autonomy don't have free will, you can give them all the information in the world they will keep taking the same sabotaging decision over and over again probably until they will dye early.
The natural state of the world is one of anarchy, which means that you need competition, when you are forcing yourself to do something that doesn't feel right you are erasing that competition and your own autonomy with it.
