We seem to be obsessed about the concept of rebirth. The new year symbolizes the end of a cycle and the beginning of a new.
I think this naturally make people reflect upon their lives and all the good and the bad, the same the end of the month or your birth day does. We all have vices and certain things that we could improve about ourselves, what we really want when we set a resolution is closure we wan't to feel good this is why resolving certain things in our lives is enticing.
The word resolution means to resolve something, the problem with this is that resolving ones problem is not going to make him happy. Having problems is an infinite cycle, after you manage to solve the problem you have right now you will get a new set of problems. So then happiness has to be something else rather then everything goes right, because that is impossible.
The problem with this is that change happen slow and gradual over time in a inconsistent non linear way. To expect that you should change your life over night and become a new person over night it is simply not an accurate reflection of reality. The problem is not so much that you failed your resolution as failure is normal unavoidable part of the process, as much as it means that you failed by setting a resolution in the first place.
The more i live and try to refine myself over time, i realize that things happen inconstantly and at a degree and intensity over which i have no control over. The only thing that i know is that in the past as much time i stayed persistent with everything i attempted to do i eventually succeeded.
Taking this in consideration it becomes very hard to set goals when there are so many variables over which you don't have any control and they are very hard to predict. Goals are more a general direction in which you decide to walk rather then an exact destination. Because it is impossible for you to know exactly when you are going to arrive and what that place really looks like and what is going to offer to you.
So then the person that has the highest chances to succeed is not the most talented, or genetically perfect as much is the one that is not willing to quit, the most persistent one. The people that are willing to overcome everything that live throws at them and keep moving until they achieve what they desire.
If you want change don't give up, there is a great quote from Buddha that goes something like this "the only mistake you can do is to never start or quit early". I hope you have a great year!
