Friendship Function
Between friends and friends have differences even though both are other people related to an individual. A friends, usually do not have a close emotional connection compared to a friend. However, the relationships between individuals characterized by
with only one-sided interests, will not last long and will soon disintegrate. For example, selfish attitude, which is where a person will befriend another person, if that person is considered to be able to provide benefits Meanwhile, a true friend will have an emotional attachment to the individual he trusts. Because it is trusted, then a friend will want to be a place of outpouring feelings of both joy and sorrow from his friend, and vice versa. The close relationship, not just pleasantries that appear from the side outwardly, but that intimacy is a reflection of the nature of the sincerity (purity) of the deepest heart. With this background, Gottman and Parker (in Santrock,1998) mentions 6 kinds of functions of friendship, which are as follows.
a. As a friend (companionship). Friendship will provide opportunities for teenagers to become friends who are ready to accompany or accompany them in various activities together all the time.
b. As a person who stimulates positive things (positive stimulation). When a friend is experiencing a failure or in an atmosphere of sadness, teenagers can act as a motivator and help provide solutions to problems, so that they can escape from sadness. completed it successfully.
c. Provide physical support (physical support). With friendship, someone is willing to sacrifice time, energy and material-moral assistance to his friend. Even he will be physically present, when his friend is experiencing suffering/sadness. With the physical presence of a friend, one can feel genuine care and help,
d. Give ego support lego support). Friendship provides hope, namely the existence of support that inspires courage, fosters a feeling of self-worth (appreciated), feels that you attract the attention of others (attractive).
e. As a social comparison (social comparison). Friendship provides opportunities and important information about personal, character, traits.the interests and abilities of others. By knowing this, individuals can reflect within themselves, in order to know or evaluate their own abilities and weaknesses,so that he can learn directly or indirectly the landscape of that person, to improve his abilities to become better.
f. Provide an atmosphere of intimacy/affection. The atmosphere of warmth, intimacy, emotional closeness, trust, sincere individual self-acceptance, seems to be found only in friendly relationships. Therefore, in an atmosphere of friendship, an individual does not
will feel ashamed to express various feelings, thoughts, experiences, and hopes. What is experienced is positive or negative? Then the other party will evaluate and help make it better.
