Sometimes, when we see some of our old pictures, there is this kind of strange sadness that might hit our mind when we remember how certain we were about the future. There was this time in our lives that we chose the type of dream house we want to live in, things set out for each stages, the kind of work we want to do at a particular age and the type of life we envision, but somehow, most of these things have fallen apart and that is because life always has its own plans and won't follow the order we give it.
Personally and without exaggeration, I feel a woman should be happy even when her has not taken shape or looks what what she envision or imagined. That woman might plan to finish school at a particular age, have kids and get married before thirty with her dream job, but at that age, she still finds herself still finds herself assisting her parents, building her carrier, and enjoying the freedom she did not plan for. Or she may have leaved all her life building a profession only to realise that a new path way is what is giving her peace of mind. And looking at those situations I mentioned does not mean she has failed in life or gone wrong.
And looking at our society today, a lot of people have made things terrible and awkward in such a way that they have put so much pressure on women in a way people rarely allow women to change their minds without questioning their decisions. When a woman reaches a certain agyamd she is yet to get married, she is being questioned why she is yet to marry. One who is married and has not kids is being ask when is she going to have kids. And even when she is thriving In her career, someone somewhere will still question her as if she is not doing enough or her life is standing still.
And looking at this very closely, I realised that there is a difference when it comes to missing an old dream and being not fulfilled or what with ones current life. She can wish some things had happened in a different way while she is ever happy with her new self and how things are going for her.
Though happiness is relative and that is why when a woman no longer threat her current life like a waiting room for the future she once dreamed of, happiness begins feel real. Life may have happened, things might have fallen apart, but she should not suffocate herself because that does not mean her life is incomplete. And what I always believe is that there is always hope which is always a reassurance to stay happy.
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