Not sure if by big mess of madness you're referring to the state of the world as a whole, or referring directly to your daughter—the world gonna do what the world gonna do. Fortunately, with children, parents still have some influence for good in their lives in spite of everything happening around them. Until somewhere in the preteen/teen age. That seems to be where you learn whether or not you've gotten through. :) I guess it still happens after that but the relationship starts to shift.