Is Monogamy A Choice Or A Natural State?

Neither. It's a social construct that's forced upon us. We're all told our whole life that it's the type of relationship we're supposed to be in, so it's kinda amazing that anyone really ends up in other relationships. Most simply try and fail at it though, then they are treated like garbage because they can't manage to fit into the box that society put them in. The level of monogamy that we force upon everyone now days is unheard of in all of history. There has been this idea of family units in much of society, but they weren't so unforgiving. It was quite common for you to have a half brother or sister from your father sleeping around. Whether or not they lived with you was another matter...but occasionally they would. Sometimes your father's mistress lived with you as well.

Not that I'm condoning "cheating". I think you should be fully honest when you can be. I'm just realistic. There are some people that are just not good at remaining monogamous.

I think the idea of what modern living should be makes it all worse. You spend a huge portion of your day working, then come home exhausted and have to deal with a trashed house because your spouse is overwhelmed, when all you want to do is sit down and relax.

Of course, if we reject monogamy, we also have to reject the modern family unit. Though, I think even if you do believe in monogamy, you should probably reject the modern family unit anyway. You should probably strive to find a balance of closeness with your family, as well as distance. Kids need to know their extended family. Parents also need help raising them. I think it's best if friends and family form their own extended family unit and raise kids together.

A kid needs more than just 2 parents. That only leaves 1 at most for most of the day. That will drive someone crazy and split a family apart.

Of course, even without kids, expecting to live in a tiny house split off from everyone else is just kinda crazy. It's too stressful. Then you expect one other person to be your all and everything and complete you? It's just not realistic.

I think that perhaps the hardest requirement of monogamy is not being faithful, but being alone. If you create a support group of friends and family, it's not as hard. But if you're alone every day after killing yourself at work...it's just a powder keg waiting to go off. The sex part isn't so important, you need friendships and relationships with others.