I understand the help others ethos and agree with it, however a focus needs to be put on oneself; if we are not right ourselves we're going to be little help to others, or so I believe.

Small acts of help, can make all the difference to someone at the end of their rope.

Indeed. Just like small act of self-care can make all the difference to oneself, who may also be at the end of one's rope.

Balance is the way to go I think.