I understand what you're saying, but I guess I wasn't so much talking about doing what a person wants, but determining what actions one feels are the right ones in life, like helping others for instance. Maybe a question one may ask themselves is, "have I been of assistance to my fellow humans and made a difference to someone's life today?" Just an example. My point being that if a person doesn't delve into themselves a little it's difficult to see (as clearly) better ways forward.

I think you get it, we're maybe just saying it differently.