I had an issue with a guy in my previous work place. We both were in same department. Our work required a whole lot of thinking, we think outside the box.
We started having issues when I came up with a plan and it was rubbished. He wanted to be bossy, he made my own ideas and thoughts look inferior but in truth i had the best ideas just he had so much friend in the group than I.
I felt unhappy and started doing my stuff privately. shortly a lady was recruited into the group and the guys made friends with her he painted me black told her a lot of bad stuff about me and then she started seeing me as a bad person I can see that from her actions I knew it.
Sometimes later she got into a disagreement with the closet of them which make the friendship with others discontinue. I observed all, I stayed on my lane but still she felt I was a bad person because of what she heard. then she lost her mum she invited everyone to the burial at Ojota. she is the first child, the invitation was not formal I also heard from the air. well she is a staff I honored the invitation.
On getting there, I tried looking for the space reserved for staffs which I later saw but the space was empty as no one was seated there I have even arrived a little bit late. she came around at the middle of the merriment looked and saw no one except me she stood there speechless, I was the least person she was expecting. I went to her say some comforting words and handed her an envelope that contain some cash I already prepare for her. she gave me a warm hug and said thank you James.
I think I proved her wrong, those guys did not show up because of their differences but I did regardless of what I believed she must have heard. we became close friends and she realized I was nothing close to whatever they have been telling her. when she came closer she saw a more different person entirely.
Over time I have seen people hate on another without reasons just because someone said something bad about them. people fail to understand that if at all the could not sustain a healthy relationship with someone they should leave others out of their differences. The way you relate with paul is different from how I relate with paul. A wise person will always relate with new people with free mind regardless of what he or she have heard.
Never Let what you hear about someone change your perspective about them because you might just be hearing from a hater.
