Hello there! Lovely moms and dads on the block, welcome to my corner while I talk about this crucial topic that has been in my thoughts for a while now.
Based on my past experiences, sometimes I asked myself, why do some people make mothers feel like choosing a C-section for the delivery of their babies makes them less of a woman? Why do some husbands prove stubborn and adamant sometimes instead of following doctors' instructions and seeking the safest option for their wives and kids? And why do some moms not listen to their doctors' advice to follow the safest delivery option put on their table?
As I continue on my motherhood journey and based on my experience so far, I can't help but ask these questions, and I hope that people get to know better and realize that going through a C-section doesn't make a mother less of a woman.
I remember meeting with two of my husband's cousins after the delivery of my son for the first time; instead of them offering their congratulations, they said things that implied that giving birth through C-section is kind of a sign I'm not adequate as a woman.
I simply told them to be grateful for seeing me and my baby alive because they have no idea what I went through.
I was not sure if they intended to make me feel less of a woman, but I do not care; I have no regret whatsoever for choosing to save my life and that of my baby when, at that critical time, going through a C-section was the most reasonable thing to do.
Over here some people still judged mothers for going through C-sections. Some moms would rather put their lives and that of their baby at risk rather than signing up for a C-section, which sometimes makes them lose their babies or even lose their lives.
In my case, for instance, I do not think either I or my baby would be here today if I had such a backwards mindset and had not acted swiftly during my labor. In fact, I am still grateful for my stubbornness to refuse to continue to push when I felt something wasn't right. At some point, this led the doctor to go for another ultrasound, which made them discover I was having a birth condition called
placenta previa it's a condition in which the placenta is not in the correct position during childbirth. In this condition, the placenta attaches low in the uterus and either partially or completely covers the cervix, the opening to the birth canal.
Which means continuing to push in the labor room without us realizing I had the condition would be very dangerous. At that point, I was loosing my strength and lots of blood. My doctor had to act fast and went for the only option left for us to be saved, which was a C-section, the same option I had requested for over the past hour, but they thought I could push out my baby myself.
I have read stories of how some women would refuse to sign up for a C-section even at their doctor's advice, or some husbands won't be in support, and most times things don't end well.
I used to tell moms, "Your life and that of your baby is the most important thing and must be a top priority at all times, regardless of what anyone might think or feel."
Some will even tell you it's against their faith, like, hello? Are you kidding? God gave the doctors another option of saving your life and that of your baby when it's too risky to push your baby out yourself, so be smart enough to know when to use the option.
There was a particular woman whose doctor told her and her husband that a C-section was the safest option for her, but she was stubborn and didn't follow her doctor's instructions. She insisted God would deliver her baby through pushing the baby out herself, and they went on fasting and praying before the delivery day. She did push her babies out, a set of twins, but the process put too much stress on her, and sadly she never lived to tell the story. The most upsetting thing about the whole thing is the husband told her not to inform her own family about the doctor's instructions until the deed was done.
Dear Moms, Sometimes your husband may not even realize how risky delivering a child is; he might just be guiding you based on the level of his knowledge, but as a woman, you know yourself better. Always seek for the safest option, and you should put yourself and your baby first.
I respect mothers who just tell their doctors, "I do not want to go through labor room stress; when my baby is mature enough, operate on me and bring it out."
The journey of giving birth is a very risky affair; The best we can do is to show kindness to everyone in this journey regardless of their choice of birth. And my prayer is that every woman out there going through this journey should end it with joy.
Let me drop my 🖊️ before this post becomes too long. Thank you guys for your support and time. Have a great weekend at your end.
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