Oh my! You have just described my wife and my relationship in perfect detail, without even knowing us! I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome as an "older adult", and my wife is neurotypical. In fact, it was due to my wife's insight that I was actually diagnosed as being on the Autism Spectrum. As for this CADD thing, I can't wait to let my wife know about it. She's asleep right now, but I will get her to take a look when she wakes up. I am sure that she will associate straight away with what you are saying here.