Hi @cahlen,
Being dedicated to the truth, I must admit your life story made me a little sad for you.

When life brings back old trauma (like your ex-wife thing) I try to ask myself:

• What is the lesson ?
• What about this situation I haven't yet integrated ?
• Is there a part of the story where I'am not honest with myself ?

I hope you will find peace with this.
And next time you will be able to "risk" being involved with another hairy legged fairy ;)