Hello friends I hope you are well, and that you are having a great week, I wish you a week full of many successes and good things. Today I come with a topic that particularly seems to me very important and I know that many people although they do not accept it they need to reinforce, OUR SELF-ESTEEM.
First of all we can define SELF-ESTEEM in the following way:
” Self-esteem is the generally positive assessment of oneself. For psychology, it is the emotional opinion that individuals have of themselves and that surpasses rationalization and logic in its causes. ” Source
Now that we have defined this word, I can say that it is something fundamental in our lives, in the way we see ourselves we are going to transmit or reflect something to others, I think that many times this can be felt and that other people can detect that something is not right.
Today I want to mention some techniques that can help us strengthen our self-esteem since it is something we should always work on.
How do you talk to yourself? Do you criticize yourself or say negative things to yourself? I think this is a key point, we must learn to treat ourselves as we treat others, many times we treat our friends better than ourselves, something that of course does not make sense. We must think first of ourselves, of our mental health, to love and respect ourselves as we are, we can improve? surely, but that does not mean that we should judge ourselves so severely.
DO NOT COMPARE US, sometimes we think that by comparing us we will feel better or we will be able to see what we need, but the reality is that the opposite happens, we get hurt and we can fall into a vicious circle, we are all different people, we all have mistakes and defects, but also virtues and good things to contribute. We should look at the people we are today and the people we were 5 or 10 years ago and we can compare what we have achieved, whether we have advanced or not, I think this is a healthy comparison.
THINKING MORE ABOUT OURSELVESSometimes we think that to be better we have to think more about others than about ourselves, and the truth is that we are wrong, we are the protagonists of this movie, if we don't want to do something we must learn to say no, if we don't feel good it is better not to do it, we must be comfortable with who we are and what we do, if we are not doing something wrong we are doing it.
TO REMOVE TOXIC PEOPLE FROM OUR LIFE, many of the people around us are people who do not allow us to move forward, who fill us with negative thoughts, people who pollute our lives, and in the end end change our way of being and thinking, so we must leave and take another path, I return and repeat to think of us first, it is better to surround ourselves with few people who fill us with good things than many who INTOXICATE LIFE.
LOVING AND ACCEPTING EACH OTHER MORE AND MORE EVERY DAY, it is important that we enjoy the person we are, that we are happy with the things we have been able to achieve, with the achievements and also with the failures because we learn from them, and experience is very important, it is something that will help us a lot in the future. Consenting is also part of loving ourselves, I think it's not bad to give ourselves a treat or take some special time for ourselves.
LEARNING FROM OUR ERRORS, many times thanks to those mistakes we can improve enormously and we can grow as people. Seeing the positive side of things that happen to us is very important, it is not easy, I know, it happens to me a lot, but it is worth trying.
AND FINALLY, GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE, Many of us find it difficult because we feel safe there, but change and new things help us to move forward and get to know ourselves better, we can know what we are capable of, of course, things can go well or they may not, but it is better to try than to wait for things to happen on their own. And if they go wrong we should look at the positive side and take it as an experience, we already know that next time we should do everything differently.