Friendship and relationship are sometimes similar; the love and affection you give to a friend is almost as similar as that which you give to someone you're in love with, but when it comes to relationship, it means a lot in a deeper sense. When one is in a relationship, it goes beyond friends; it's more of intimacy from every angle, which is why trust is very important when it comes to both friendship and relationships. In today's blog, I'll be sharing with you the importance of building trust in both friendship and relationship and probably one story from the early days of my relationship.
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I have had many friends in this little life I live and I can tell you that "Trust" is the bedrock or foundation of any friendship or relationship that would last.
It is very difficult to be in the same room with a friend you don't trust, because for every kind of negative thought that comes to your mind, you would believe such a friend is capable of doing such. Even when we have bad days or feel like someone has double-crossed us, the first person that would come to your mind would be that friend you don't trust. The truth is, friendship requires being supportive, learning, tolerating, and trusting each other as the main goal. A friend you don't trust, you wouldn't even want to give them the chance to support you because you would believe there would be a catch for it later on.
For relationships, I don't think it's a wise thing to be in a relationship with someone you don't trust. There would be peace of mind in such relationships because you would always suspect your partner of things they aren't even capable of.
I remember the early stage of my relationship; it was a long-distance relationship. She was in a state that was five states far from me and this was just the first month of our relationship. All we did was chat, call, and FaceTime during the early stage of our relationship. One thing I did was to build trust between us; I asked a lot of questions, and she did likewise. I was scared but she kept assuring me I should trust her and I did likewise. It got to a time I trusted her so much, like we had been living together and I already knew the kind of lady she was from our daily conversation.
One particular day, a lady who also likes me came to me and said, "Your girlfriend is very far from you and the one that likes you who is close by, you're not giving her a chance. Do you even know what she's doing over there or how many boys are sleeping with her?"
I immediately shun her because I know my girl and I don't want anyone to plant a seed of doubt in me. It got to a time I said, "I don't know what she's doing but I trust her and if she chooses to betray that trust, then it's her loss, but I know her very well. The truth is, I trust her more than I trust myself and that has helped our relationship.
At the end of the day, trust is not just a word we throw around; it’s the backbone of every bond we share whether with friends or lovers. Without it, even the strongest connection can crumble. Trust gives peace, it builds confidence, and it helps love grow deeper. When you truly trust someone, you stop overthinking, and you start enjoying the beauty of the relationship. Whether it’s a friend who always has your back or a partner who holds your heart, never forget love may start a connection, but trust is what keeps it alive.
Thanks for reading. My name is Fashtioluwa.
