I greet everyone especially the management in their consistency in delivering this weekly engagement. For we the participants, we've made the journey very interesting and lively.
Another exciting theme has been published again this week in the first edition which I considered it very practical.
who's a mediator or middle man?
I will attempt to define this concept in my own understanding.
A middle man is someone who is in between the start and end of a thing.
A middle man is a mediator.
A middle man is an intermediary.
A middle man can also be seen as a wholesaler. A person who buys from the manufacturer or producer and sells it in smaller quantities to the retailer.
A middle man is like a connector between two persons either in peace or dispute.
A middle man is like a link or bridge between two people.
Have you ever mediate between two people?
YES I have mediate between two people who had dispute on so many occasions.
How did I mediate?
I must confess that setting two people quarrelling or fighting isn't an easy thing at all.
I will be sharing my practical examples on how I was involved in certain situations between two people who were not in good terms and the strategies I used to bring reconciliation.
Being a mediator can be tasking and you must prepare yourself very well because you may be blame for dividing the truth or saying the truth. It's good that you develop a good listening skills in order to hear both parties.
You have to be patient and allow both parties involved to express all their grievances and you must have high level of tolerance to bring reconciliation.
You need to have a balanced emotions which will help to avoid quick interference to the issue that is about to be resolved.
As a mediator, one of the character you must have is be full of wisdom
I want to also say that mediators are also readers. You just have to develop a good reading habits which would help to expand your vastness in other issues that might look similar for good hearing.
my practical approach
The first I did in settling people was to hear from both parties very well what actually happened. I try to get their various perception about it. In doing that, I ensured that they didn't speak spontaneously rather I gave access one first before the other. I tend to exercise little authority here so that the discussion can be properly followed.
The next thing I did was to find out the root cause of the problem. I discovered that when the problem isn't identified, I may end up addressing the wrong thing or what has never happened. In achieving this I bacon on other witnesses to hear their perception to validate some of the statements.
I try to restrain my self from intercepting when any of the party is talking. This granted me a fair premise to take a good stand.
After listening to both ends, I try to sieve them and look at them keenly while talking and look at who's more remorse amongst them. Aside that I engage in prayers for the spirit of wisdom so that I can reconcile the both parties peacefully.
Conclusion
To be a middle man requires sacrifices of time, energy, resources etc in order to ensure that bad relationships are brought back. Someone had paid the sacrifice to resolve some of your disputes therefore be a mediator for some one too today.
thanks so much for reading my blog and I want to appreciate you for your comments.
