Yes, I now speak of myself in the third person, my head has gotten so big.
If you are unaware how to determine if you truly are happy, then you might find these four indicators helpful. These might also be helpful if you are in the search of that magical happiness everyone keeps talking about.
You know you are having fun when time flies, and it only does if you forget to check up on it all the time. I completely forget to check the time when I having a good time. Whether it’s drinks with friends or roaming about in the woods alone, forgetting about the time is a good indicator that I’m on the right place at the right time (pun very much intended.) Say time one more time. Shit. I dit it again.
When I’m happy and doing something fun, I forget to check the phone, and also the laptop. No WhatsApp, no Steemit, no Blockfolio(!!), no scrolling mindlessly through Instagram and no need to kill time browsing cat videos. Like I would even do that It’s so nice to actually forget to check how cryptocurrencies are doing and if I’ve gotten any new comments on Steemit. It has to be truly that I forget about it, and not that I force myself to not do it or leave my phone in the corner.
It is so refreshing to notice that you’ve spend half the day with hardly clanging at the phone, and even then, only to check the time or to locate a missing fwend, or Google a restaurant to go to.
This point is not to do with only purely physical appearance, but also self confidence. If you are feeling good about yourself, it really doesn’t matter what you are wearing, or how you look. For me, I know I am never fat, but if I feel bloated or I know my skin is bad, it’s something that can easily bring me down and affect on my overall mood. If I look my best, by my own indicators, it’s much easier for me to enjoy myself. That is why I care about my personal style and appearance. If I look and feel like shit, I’m not going because I know I won’t be able to enjoy myself fully. By looking my best, I actually forget about my looks and just enjoy myself instead.
In the morning (read: noon) I do my makeup, maybe fix my hair, and put on an outfit that is both comfortable and good looking, and hopefully forget about my appearance for the rest of the day. I do care what I look like and what I wear, but when I stop worrying about it on the go, it’s a good indicator that I’m having fun. By the end of the day, I might look like shit, having stains in the jeans, hair a mess and makeup worn off, but if I only realise it once I’m getting ready for bed, it’s been a helluva good day!
This is a tough one. I often miss someone I would like to share an experience with, or sometimes I dislike the company I’m in, and would prefer being with someone else. I zone out and think of the person I would rather spend time with, and can’t because one reason of another. It doesn’t mean that that person is above everyone else, but more so that I would like to share this certain experience with them, or that I know they would appreciate the view, just like I do.
I know I’m both physically and mentally in a good place, if I don’t dream of some faraway land to escape to. I’m having fun here and now, not needing a getaway to a tropical five start resort to make me happy, where I most certainly would only miss someone.
I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching (soul not located, please check back again later) recently and really tried to pinpoint the moments that have fulfilled all four happiness indicators. These kinds of moment are the ones I search for.
