Greetings to everyone in this lovely community, I will be participating in today's edition of hivelearners featured contest #Hl-w48e3 which is tagged "PRESSURE"
Pressure is any form of persuasion or intimidation put on someone to make him or her do something.
The type of pressure I get is from my extended family and friends and is all about Marriage, this pressure started three years ago not even from my siblings or my parent.
There was a day I visited my aunt in her state and when I got there she received me warmly and as usual we gisted and eat, in the middle of the night she came to my room to wake me and said we have a discussion, at first I was amazed and told her to wait till morning but she refused and said my friend stand up we need to talk..... Hmmmm
So when I got up she started telling me that who am I dating, she needs to see his picture and so on, she continues that when are we planning for the introduction and all sort of unnecessary questions but my replied was that we are working on it even when I know I am not seeing anyone at the moment just to satisfy her and all that.
I thought it will not there, not at all, recently I went for my cousins wedding and met all my paternal relatives, this same story popped up again and they started victimizing my life, putting pressure on me when to get married, reminding me my age and all that, mennnnn it is not easy in this country, I was ashamed of myself the way they are tackled me when they saw me, it was something else.
Another pressure was from my friends I kept on seeing messages from my WhatsApp that when are you getting married, one even told me that her children will call me Aunt, I said no problem because she married early and she has already given birth to three children but that was not a problem to me.
Marriage in this country entails so many things, no more full house wife, you must have something doing in other to support your home, no man can stand liability and no one can settle with that, as a young promising young lady take your time and know your man.
Like my mother will rightly said "A Broken Relationship is Better Than a Broken Marriage" so those people putting pressure on me to get married will not be the one to live with me in my husband house, I know marriage is good when you married to your best friend and to your own man.
So many marriages crashes now because of lack of understanding and communication, I would not want my own to be like that, I need to take my time study the kind of partner I will spend the rest of my life with, know him well and understand each other, I will never allow family pressure to push me to where I do not like.
Let me share my experience with my ex- boyfriend with us, there was the guy I met through my friend, he asked me out and we started dating, we dated for four years and there was a day I was coming from work and I called him to know his whereabout because I was coming to his house to pick somethings but he told me he was not around, so I went to the market bought food stuffs and all that I know he will be needing for the week, so I headed to the house because I have his spare key behold I saw with man sleeping with my friend that introduced us together which happens to be my best friend, I was shocked and could not do or say anything this really broke me for months but at long run I gathered my pieces together and continue my life.
So when I said taking my time, I did not mean taking forever ooo, I just need to heal and be assure of my next move because life does not require hardness.
The way I manage the pressure from my relatives is by telling them very soon, I even introduced a guy to them so that I can have peace, I did not let their pressure get to me, I always live my life to the fullest and never allow their pressure to overshadow me.
Thank you all for taking your precious time to read my blog, you are all indeed a great family here on hive.
