It sounds like you had an abundance of what really matters! That must've been a wonderful thing to learn about your husbands acts of kindness. That's the best legacy a person can leave.

The hedonic treadmill is the worst! So many people fall into that trap and then neither appreciate or enjoy anything they have, they're always fixated on the next great thing that will make them "happy".

When helping others—how did you and your husband determine who really needed help and who were looking for a handout?