This is the curse of the soft-hearted—finding that balance between satisfying our own conscience and protecting ourselves. I still struggle with it at 54. Just when I think I've learned my lesson I'll get burned, or more like allow myself to get burnt as a reminder that I still have more to learn. Kind-hearted people are often seen as "marks" for the sociopaths that walk amongst us and their gaslighting skills are strong. The meal looks delicious and a little like Elmo! : )