Very good advice, Edith and great use of metaphor! Growing up in 70's/80's America what we were taught about love (mainly through movies and TV) was unrealistic and unattainable. This put us at a great disadvantage right out of the gate. Recently I've heard an "influencer" on social media say that when you boil relationships down to the their most basic, women want to be the center of a man's universe and men want to be appreciated. I found that interesting but think it's more complicated than that. I would choose kindness in a partner over almost anything else at this stage of life. Kindness is more rare than a lot of people realize.