Thank you for commenting. I welcome your agreement as well as your disagreement a lot :)

I would look at it the other way round. If someone doesn't want to recognise marriage as something that is capable of freeing him from the rigours of insecurity and jealousy through its special character, he probably won't find that it protects him from them either. If you understand marriage as the smallest unit in a state, in which the highly personal experiences the greatest possible space for individual idiosyncrasies - as a state within a state - everything that can shake the marriage (jealousy, insecurity, etc.) becomes an opportunity to recognise the pact in spirit as insurance against such disturbances. Contact takes place on the outer boundary of marriage. And since there are things in every human life that tempt, unsettle and cause doubt, recalling the marital covenant and the promise made is important at such times.

Love itself can grow through the officially entered into covenant, because romantic love and erotic love are limited in nature and what remains in the cohabitation of two people when romance and eroticism lose their power, which they inevitably do, is to feel satisfied without these elements in a marriage.

I can let another person be free if they know that they have my loyalty. So I would say that for young, as yet unmarried people, marriage initially exists only as a potential, but for men and women who have been together for many years and have lived through the phases of uncertainty and doubt, the potential has unfolded the moment their marriage has been placed on such touchstones and taken further. Love is the will to deal honestly with oneself and marriage is the training ground in which this is most optimally possible. People who have difficulties with love are given the opportunity through the relationship to experience the loyalty of the other person and can perhaps only be enabled to love fully once they have experienced this in depth for the first time.

Marriage and love are therefore mutually dependent, I would think. There are phases in which a man may not love his wife very much and vice versa, in which case the marital bond is the supporting element. I think loving is an art. It's not something that just stays that way and exists all by itself. Love is something that has to be constantly renewed, because people are constantly changing.