The system invites abuse, if you ask me. In the real world, if you leave your wallet open or don't lock your front door, you're told you've invited abuse and it's your own fault if you get robbed. When a system invites abuse, one can talk about an ideal state where the system, although easily abused, is not allowed to be exploited willy-nilly, but where it does happen with ease, there is a certain comedy in watching emotions run high. As long as there are role models who also engage in exploitation and remain untouched as big fish, the small ones will also remain unaware of any guilt and will not bend their knee, that is how I see it. However, I don't see any solution to make the system exploitation-proof, so the conflicts will probably remain.

IF more people paid attention to what hw's and the others are doing on a daily basis they would not have the opinions they have, imo.

Which are?

As there is no general solution, case by case is the way to go. Shall these cases be talked about in the open? That's another question.