Rock bottom can be healing ground, true. For that, you need to be older than 16, I guess (past puberty). Some get it early on, others late in life, and some never.
Suffered Trauma offers more than one perspective, I agree.

Without knowing it but since Freud, I guess, parents are number one target to blame in order to avoid becoming mature - in a sense, they are the easiest and closest address to guilt trip them. If they are weak, they accept the guilt given.
As we don't have anarchy (in its best sense) projection is very common. I watch out not to fall for it myself.