Hello to you,

I'd say you have encountered the zeitgeist within which people make it their business to negate men and women. The conflict with men has been going on for a while and the feminists who have taken the lead have caused a whole series of me-too movements that boil down to being the victim of violence or injustice.

You probably had an inkling of what could happen if you made a comment that could be taken as offensive, as there is always someone just lustingly waiting to be outraged. In this there is a greed for sensation that is in strong contradiction to the proclaimed non-violence that is supposedly preferred by such groups. In reality, one gloats over having been victimised by "narcissists" and any validation is justified as long as one can see the other as "disturbed" and oneself as "balanced".

Your comment could be born out of a desire to find validation, I interpret, while at the same time suspecting that this might not be the case, but still hoping that something as normal as feeling sexual arousal is just not a big deal.

Well, you've stuck your toe in the water and found that normality is unwanted and, in the absence of perpetrators within such groups (because the feel they all are victims), misdeeds are absolutely needed to continue riding the narcissism horse. No matter what diagnoses you hand out, as long as it is that you see yourself as healthy and normal, and others as disturbed and dangerous, nothing is gained.

I have the attitude that everyone who grew up in modern civilisation has certain neurotic, narcissistic, psychotic and other mental disorders (myself included) - sometimes stronger and sometimes weaker - and depending on the environment you are in, reactions set in depending on the strength of the resonances with each other (it goes both ways, reasonable and unreasonable).

In this way, going into such mono causal groups can be interpreted on the one hand as boredom and then, as the opposite emotion, as the sensation of feeling misunderstood. I think it is a widespread phenomenon, a kind of pleasure in experiencing the sensation of rejection, while at the same time suffering from it.

A group that has the ultimate goal of suppressing any form of verbal insult will not be able to follow their own rules and will pounce on the first one who gives cause to shout "Here! Stone him!". LOL One of my favorite quotes is that the ten commandments are only there because we cannot follow them and that's the whole purpose of having them written down. I probably did hand you the chapter where I have it from, did I?

One's own suppressed lust is expressed in this, probably similar to the horror of atrocities while enjoying them at the same time. As, for example, the Puritans were said to have done when they threw gay men into the river with a heavy stone tied to their foot.
Apart from that I personally don't think that online groups who deal with psychic issues do function very well. There are strangers talking to strangers and miscommunication is very easy to reach. Online groups which focus on certain hobbies and do-it-yourself topics are way better to get a sense of community. Where all political os social talk is just limited and talk takes place about what one wants to build or do oneself with your hands.

I myself make a test whether a chat or a group online I mingle with leaves me inspired afterwards or leaves me with headaches or heartaches. If I encounter the latter I know that my choice was bad.

Other than that, I too, find it a good way to post this and reflect on what experiences you went through (even using the third person:)

Greetings to you.