I see.
So if you don't want to give up your country as defeated, you want it to be defended, the only relevant question remains, why did you flee this country if you don't want it to surrender? So do you want others to fight for you and others to die for you? You want war, but you don't want to be involved yourself? If you had seen even the slightest chance for yourself to fight and survive, to protect the old and the children and the women, wouldn't you have stayed? So you did something sensible, and now that you have escaped the acute danger zone, what do you do?

Not all the people have fled your country, have they? There are still many more there than outside the country, aren't there? And what is your advice for them? For you seem to know.