It's true what you say, it's just talking, getting to know each other, a kind of navigation through the jungle of human complexity. Yes, I agree, you don't have to make slavish rules to live by something you approve of, because you won't be able to keep them anyway. Those who claim to always play by the rules are guaranteed to break them :) Probably it's rather a very clumsy choice of words, probably nobody really means absolutely the way it comes out of their mouth. But the moment someone else attacks such, one defends something tooth and nail, which, if one's fellow human being had asked curiously and openly, one would not have got into such an awkward defensive position in the first place.

Yes, talk can be cheap, but at the same time it can cost you head and neck. LOL

Mischievous greetings :)