My son came back from school, reporting that a 13 year old kid had a knife and was threatening people in the school yard. Police was called and the police officer wrestled with the kid, while other kids wanted to protect their comrade. He said, they were saying the kids attacked the officer. He was no witness to the incident, so it's all hear-say. With the result, that all students were given a lesson about it. I asked my son: "And, what is your conclusion of all of this?" He shrugged his shoulders and told me "I don't know. I feel the extra given lesson was a waste of time."

I once in a while ask my son about his opinion of all what is happening. He is not engaging. Smart kid, I think :) Of course, the constant drip will form his later or present actions and thoughts, I also have no doubt. But what I can see, is, that kids are not dumb. All he wants is to have a good place where he is left in peace. He needs adults who stay calm. I admit, that I am not always this type of an adult. But I want him as much as possible to be able to make his choices. And where this is not possible (obviously) not to take over to him my despair of the currents.