In my experience, the unconditional will to control is an avoidance reflex. The attempt not to allow one's own feelings of sadness The unconditional avoidance of experiences in which the impression of uncertainty and unpredictability arises, becomes apparent, is a challenge for us humans, who have become accustomed to predictions and model calculations, for some even a kind of insurmountable imposition.

To be able to cry, to let tears flow, that is a risk among people. It is still understood as a sign of weakness, even in Buddhist philosophies and views of life, the positive reception of this expression of feeling is not shown to its best effect. Although it is said that suppressing grief is harmful, those who say this are rarely or never seen to show tears of sadness.