So true we care about our loved ones and can go any length just to protect them making sure they are sound. Most at times we want to ensure we are fully involved in their life including their decisions but unfortunately not everyone is so interested in letting the cat out of the bag as most of them prefer to live or enjoy a quiet lifestyle.
Personally, now I live a more private life as I find it difficult to even interact or make new friends with people. I can be in a particular location for a year and end up not having friends around me sometimes it takes about three to four months to start a simple conversation before getting to know the individual more and that's practically because in the past have experience lots of heart breaks from friends I called family. The most annoying one of them all was when I confided in a friend about an issue bothering me. After trusting this guy so much, the next day a friend called and told me exact things I had discussed with this guy. That did not end there, I was so angry that my little secret has now become public matter and even tried questioning the guy why he chose to betray me. But to my suprise, just few hours of dropping the call this same lady called again to inform me what I had discussed earlier with the guy this really got me upset as I needed someone to confined in and found none.
Aside what happened with outsiders, as the only female child there are some times I desired to speak to a female figure like myself and since their is none I end up talking to one of my brother. But again I dare not offend him after that because everybody in the house is gonna know about it. This made me prioritize a private live style deciding what I feel a person should know about me cause trust me at some point in our life's a few people deserves to know a little about us as they have proven their loyalty over the years and that is when they can actually back us up when a stranger is saying otherwise about us.
In as much privacy is much needed, one can't deny the fact that some people's quietness means danger and thats because so many people can't open up to ask for help while some live in depression. So in as much as I desired a private life I find it necessary to always check up on the ones I say I love it must not be on a daily basis as some may find it disturbing but I think ones or twice a week is cool by doing so you are indirectly saying you care so much about them which will apparently strengthen bonds. Not just about the bond created, we also know when to come in should incase they need our help.
And lastly it is important to know when to draw the line like a no go area when it involves our finances. Not everyone is happy to know what we have in our possession as it would hurt them. Also our family secrets should remain private as this involves integrity and some many other stuffs we would like to protect.
Thank you for your time, peace 🕊️
